Wednesday, June 13, 2012
Bittersweet Milestones
Audrey, our 10 month old, is developing very normally so far. In fact, she is ahead of schedule on a lot of things. She walks well, and is now trying to bounce on our little trampoline and dance - 2 things that Matt still doesn't do. She can climb halfway up the slide in our backyard - Matt just figured this out a few months ago. It really hit me hard today when she very carefully and gingerly stabbed 3 different cubes of avocado and put them in her mouth. There was no intense concentration and forceful missed stabs and tears like we still see with Matthew. It just seemed like the most natural thing in the world to her. I know you are not supposed to compare your kids, but it's hard not to when your 10 month old is starting to pass your 46 month old on certain skills. I don't want Matthew to feel more frustrated when he sees his baby sister doing things he struggles to do. Hopefully it will just encourage him to keep working hard.
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I understand this. Lydia is 2.5 yrs younger than Abby and can do MANY things that Abby just hasn't mastered yet. If I may make a suggestion, keep a list of things that he is or can do that the others aren't/can't. Abby is very tender (something hard prayed for!). She is deligent in her work. Nothing has come easily for her so she knows how to put her head down and work to get it done. She is not afraid of failure. She has failed before and will fail again, so why be afraid to try. (Remember she is 10 almost 11, and we have done all the therapy plus with her, and we chose not to get an official diagnosis.) But I think you'll start seeing these characteristics in Matt, too! You'll find ways to Praise God for exactly how He has made Matt...wonderfully made! If you don't make a big deal out of the differences, but show him how God made each person so wonderfully unique...he will be able to rejoice in his differences! (And don't think for a minute that he doesn't understand all of that...I still think it just gets trapped in there and they don't know how to get it out to process it or let us know they've processed it!) Y'all keep up the good work! love ya, Sara
ReplyDeleteThank you for the encouraging words, Sara. I always value your input and experience in these matters. Matthew is sweet, funny, musical, and captures the heart of everyone who meets him. He really is a unique little boy in spite of his struggles. I just wish things were easier for him. He gets so frustrated when he tries so hard to do something and just can't.
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